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Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You! This Saturday, November 6th

Internet Dating is a good way to meet a lot of people. But the key is quality, not quantity! So join us this Saturday to learn how to make Internet Dating work for you!

Don’t forget to bring your profile if you have one.

And remember your 2-for-1 coupon, so you can bring a friend for *free*!

Look forward to seeing you there!
Vondie :)

p.s.
If you know anyone else who might be interested, feel free to forward this on to them. And, they can always sign-up to get my newsletter at my website or blog.

Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You!
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($15 before November 4th, $20 at the door)
To get your 2-for-1 coupon, click here.
For more info. click here.
To register, click here.

And watch for more info. about next month’s seminar, How to Date During the Holidays!

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Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You! Saturday, November 6th (2-for-1 special!)

We had a great response the last time we did our seminar on Internet Dating. People even requested Internet Dating II! So, I think it’s time to get back to it.

Whether you’ve been doing Internet Dating for a while or are just thinking about trying it, this seminar is for you! We’ll cover some basic tips for finding quality men (or women) and how to:

• Get started
• Be safe
• Screen out the ones you don’t want
• Attract the ones you do want!

If you have a profile, bring it! And we’ll give you some feedback on it. And if you attended our last Internet Dating seminar, we’d love to hear how it’s working for you!

So I’ll hope you’ll join us Saturday, November 6th for Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You!

And don’t forget to use your 2-for-1 coupon and bring a friend for *free*!

Look forward to seeing you!
Vondie :)

 

p.s. If you know anyone else who might be interested, feel free to forward this on to them. And, they can always sign-up to get my newsletter at my website or blog.

Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You!
Saturday, November 6th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
(($15 before November 4th, $20 at the door)
To register, click here.
To get your 2-for-1 coupon, click here.
For more info. click here.

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This blog is for informational and educational purposes only. No therapist-client relationship arises. The information provided, and any comments or opinions expressed, is intended for general discussion and education only, even when based on a hypothetical. It should not be relied upon for ultimate decision-making in any specific case. There is no substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health specialist, or even a physician, who would be the best to evaluate and advise based on a careful, considered evaluation of all pertinent facts. Likewise, it is understood that no guarantee or warranty arises from the information provided or discussed on this blog.

You Can Let Go of the Past And Get Started on Your Future!

I’ve had some requests to do the How to Let Go of the Past So You Can Get Started on Your Future, seminar again. We usually do this in January for the new year, but I don’t want you to have to wait until then.

We all want someone good to love. But, if you’ve been hurt in the past, that can make it difficult to move on and build a new relationship.

Sometimes, you get stuck in the grief. Or the fear of getting hurt again can hold you back.

We’ll talk about how to deal with your grief and fear. But most of the workshop will be interactive. (Bring old magazines if you have them).

• You’ll sit at tables and cut out pictures of things that represent what you’ve lost
• Then you can place them on your poster board (we’ll provide the supplies)
• And if you want, you can share your board with others

I know it sounds silly, but this is a way to memorialize your loss and share your story. That’s part of how you heal your grief so you can move on. It’s also very comforting to hear the stories of others who are going through the same thing.

You can also put things on your board to represent your new hopes and dreams.

This is a very popular workshop, so sign-up early to reserve your seat. Plus, we need to know you’re coming so we have enough supplies for everyone! There’s a slight price increase: $15 if you register early, $20 at the door. But to offset the increase, we’re bringing back our 2-for-1 coupon so you and a friend can split the cost!

I hope to see you there.
Take Good Care,

Vondie :)

How to Let Go of the Past, So You Can Get Started on Your Future!
Saturday, October 2nd
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($15 before September 30th, $20 at the door)
To register, just click here

For your 2-for-1 coupon, click here
For more information, just click here

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This blog is for informational and educational purposes only. No therapist-client relationship arises. The information provided, and any comments or opinions expressed, is intended for general discussion and education only, even when based on a hypothetical. It should not be relied upon for ultimate decision-making in any specific case. There is no substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health specialist, or even a physician, who would be the best to evaluate and advise based on a careful, considered evaluation of all pertinent facts. Likewise, it is understood that no guarantee or warranty arises from the information provided or discussed on this blog.

We’re baaack… How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date! Saturday, September 11th

Well, we did it! Henry and I are officially married and back from our honeymoon. :)

And we’re finally gonna get to have our seminar -- How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date, Saturday, September 11th at the Village Book Shop.

I know many of you have been patiently waiting for this event... so to say "thank-you," we’re bringing back our 2-for-1 coupon! Register in advance or pay at the door and bring a friend for free this month!

Andy donated 20 sets of his Dating Cards. So don’t forget to get there early to get yours!

I can’t wait to see you there!

Vondie

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How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!
Saturday, September 11th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before September 9th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
To get your 2-for-1 coupon, just click here.

This blog is for informational and educational purposes only. No therapist-client relationship arises. The information provided, and any comments or opinions expressed, is intended for general discussion and education only, even when based on a hypothetical. It should not be relied upon for ultimate decision-making in any specific case. There is no substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health specialist, or even a physician, who would be the best to evaluate and advise based on a careful, considered evaluation of all pertinent facts. Likewise, it is understood that no guarantee or warranty arises from the information provided or discussed on this blog.

Seminar Rescheduled -- How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date! Saturday, September 11th

First of all, just wanted to let you know -- I’m doing fine... just really busy with the wedding next week!

But, I did want to let you know we’re still having our monthly Singles Seminar -- How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date, Saturday, September 11th at the Village Book Shop.

Remember we’ll have Andy’s dating cards. So, this is gonna be fun! We’ll practice how to meet someone, what to say to get to know them better. And even how to get away when you need to!

And we’re still planning our big event -- Our First Live Online Singles Seminar! Patty and Melissa and I have been working hard getting ready for you! And we should be ready for this fall. : )

So I hope you enjoy what’s left of your summer. And I’ll look forward to seeing you soon.

Lots of love,
Vondie

p.s. Some people have asked about the "wedding"??? Yes, the "wedding" is mine. Henry and I are getting married Saturday, August 14th : )

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How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!
Saturday, September 11th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before September 9th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

This blog is for informational and educational purposes only. No therapist-client relationship arises. The information provided, and any comments or opinions expressed, is intended for general discussion and education only, even when based on a hypothetical. It should not be relied upon for ultimate decision-making in any specific case. There is no substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health specialist, or even a physician, who would be the best to evaluate and advise based on a careful, considered evaluation of all pertinent facts. Likewise, it is understood that no guarantee or warranty arises from the information provided or discussed on this blog.

Seminar Cancelled - Saturday, July 10th How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date (July 24th Online Seminar -- also postponed)

I’m really sorry for the short notice. But this Saturday’s Seminar has been cancelled. My grandmother passed away on Friday. And I’ll be going out of town for the service this weekend.

This also means I won’t have time to get ready for our new online seminar on July 24th. So that’s also postponed.

I have to tell you, I’m really disappointed. I was looking forward to both seminars. But I’m trying to practice self-care, especially with getting ready for the wedding in August.

So I won’t get to see you until September. But I hope you’ll mark your calendar and join us then (How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date! Saturday, September 11th).

Until then,
Vondie
P.S. I'm doing okay.

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How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!
Saturday, September 11th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before September 9th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

This blog is for informational and educational purposes only.  No therapist-client relationship arises.  The information provided, and any comments or opinions expressed, is intended for general discussion and education only, even when based on a hypothetical.  It should not be relied upon for ultimate decision-making in any specific case.  There is no substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health specialist, or even a physician, who would be the best to evaluate and advise based on a careful, considered evaluation of all pertinent facts.  Likewise, it is understood that no guarantee or warranty arises from the information provided or discussed on this blog.

A reminder - Saturday, July 10th How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date! & Online Singles Seminar Demo!

I hope you’ll join us Saturday, July 10th to practice: How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!

Remember -- get there early for your *free* set of Andy’s Dating Cards! To register, just click here.

And after the seminar, we’ll have a brief demo of Our First LIVE Online Singles Seminar! You can see what how it works and ask questions. We’re really excited to share this with you!

Hope to see you there!
Vondie :)
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How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!
Saturday, July 10th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before July 8th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

This blog is for informational and educational purposes only.  No therapist-client relationship arises.  The information provided, and any comments or opinions expressed, is intended for general discussion and education only, even when based on a hypothetical.  It should not be relied upon for ultimate decision-making in any specific case.  There is no substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health specialist, or even a physician, who would be the best to evaluate and advise based on a careful, considered evaluation of all pertinent facts.  Likewise, it is understood that no guarantee or warranty arises from the information provided or discussed on this blog. 

Has it been a while since you dated? Do you wish you could practice what you're supposed to do and say?

Dating is hard enough. But especially if it's been a while since you've been "out there."

So that's why we're gonna practice: How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!

Saturday, July 10th, we'll use Andy's Dating Cards and try out some of his suggestions for:

• Pick-up and Get-away Lines: What to say when you'd like to get to know someone better. And how to get away when you need to!


• Flirting: How to let someone know you find them interesting!


• Low Impact Dating: How to make the most of a date and find out if they're right for you!

Andy is donating Dating Cards. So get there early to get yours! We'll try them out and see what really works. This will be a lot of fun! So, I hope you'll join us. To register, just click here.

Hope to see you there!
Vondie :)
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How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date!
Saturday, June 10th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before July 8th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Our First LIVE Online Singles Seminar!

If you (or someone you know) would like to join us, but live too far away, we’ve got something just for you! Saturday, July 24th, we’ll have our first LIVE online Singles Seminar! You can join us from the privacy of your own home, wherever you are! More info. to follow...

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

This Saturday, June 5th Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert? 3:00 – 4:30 p.m.

Just a quick reminder, about this Saturday’s Introvert/Extrovert Seminar!

Come and find out why the people you’re really attracted to drive you crazy!

And discover how you can find the right balance of chemistry and compatibility!

I can’t wait to see you!

Take Good Care,
Vondie :)

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Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert?
Saturday, June 5th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before June 3rd, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

p.s.

Looking Ahead -- Everyone’s been saying they want help with Andy’s dating tips for How to GET a Date and What to SAY and DO on a Date! So, Saturday, July 10th, we’ll use Andy’s Dating Cards and we’ll try out some of his suggestions for: Pick-up and Get-away Lines, Flirting, and Low Impact Dating! And we’ll decide together what really works! This will be a lot of fun! I hope you’ll join us! To register, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert? And what does that mean for your relationships? Saturday, June 5th, 3:00 – 4:30 p.m.

Well, first things first, we're back to Saturdays. Fridays just didn't work for everyone.

And it's time for our -- Introvert/Extrovert Seminar again!

I don’t usually repeat seminars during the year, but since it takes a while to get the hang of what all the "letters" mean, sometimes it helps to do this one more often.

What do I mean by "letters?"*

Well...

• Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert? (I/E)
  If you're an Introvert, you need more time alone to recharge your batteries. And you'd rather spend one-on-one time with a close friend. If you're an Extrovert, you love big groups and have lots of friends. You lose energy if you have too much time alone.


• Are you more Intuitive or Sensing? (N/S)
  If you're Intuitive, you "trust your gut." You're good with ideas and words. And you're idealistic. If you're Sensing, you trust your senses -- what you can taste, touch, smell, feel. That makes you observant, practical and realistic. (This one can be especially tricky, if you're different from the person you're in a relationship with).


• Are you a Thinker or Feeler? (T/F)
  If you're a Thinker, you'd rather make decisions based on your "head." You focus on what's logical and fair for everyone. If you're a Feeler, you tend to make decisions based on your "heart." You're more compassionate and warm. (Slightly more men are thinkers. Slightly more women are feelers.)


• Are you more Judging or Perceiving? (J/P)
  If you're more Judging, you're organized, you like to plan ahead, and you're good with time. You feel better once you've made a decision so you can cross it off your list. If you're more Perceiving, you'd rather be spontaneous and flexible. You like to keep your options open. You're more "in the moment" which means sometimes you lose track of time.

You get the idea... we have really different ways of doing things. And of course, you're not all one way or the other. But, when you get a sense of your overall style, it can tell you a lot about yourself and your relationships, like who you're attracted to and who would be a good fit for you!

The more different your letters are, the more CHEMISTRY you'll have.

The more alike your letters are, the more COMPATIBLE you'll be.

That's why you're really attracted to people who drive you crazy! Or you when you find someone you get along with, it can feel boring.

So, how do you discover what your letters are? And how do you find the right balance of chemistry and compatibility?

I hope you'll join us to find out!

I can't wait to see you June 5th for - Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert? (This seminar is really fun. So, feel free to bring a friend or significant other!)

Take Good Care,
Vondie :)

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Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert?
Saturday, June 5th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before June 3rd, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

p.s.
The "letters" are based on the Myers-Briggs/Keirsey Bates Personality Profiles from Please Understand Me, 1984.

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

We’re on Facebook & Twitter!

Well, it happened. We’re on Facebook & Twitter!

You can find me on Facebook under Vondie’s Singles Seminars or just click here. You don’t even need to be a Facebook member.

And on Twitter, http://twitter.com/vondielozano.

Sorry to those of you who got "friended/defriended" on Facebook. : ( We weren’t exactly sure what we were doing at first. But, I think we’ve finally got things set up right. : )

If you are on Facebook, drop by and leave us a note on our "wall" when you get a chance. Or sign up to become a "fan" so we can stay in touch.

And if you’re not on Facebook, and you’d like to be. Just go to facebook.com.

"See" you soon,

Vondie :)

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

This Friday, April 23rd 7:30 p.m. The Nuts & Bolts of Dating: Finding Someone Good Doesn’t Have to be a Mystery! And Upcoming Events & Happenings!

You know how much I love getting together with you!

And I want to make it as easy as possible for you to be there! So, we’re going through some changes with our Singles Seminars to make that happen. Here’s the latest update..

Finding Someone Good Doesn’t Have to be a Mystery, Friday, April 23rd, 7:30 p.m.

This will be our last Friday night meeting. I know Friday nights are just not convenient for many of you.

But, if you can make it one last time, we’ll discuss specific guidelines for finding someone good, such as:

• Where to look for someone good
• What to do when you meet someone interesting
• How to find someone who will really love you back!

I’ve been reading Andy Whaling’s new book, Choosing Well, and I agree with him, the key is moving from a "fear of rejection" approach to an "Are they worth my time approach?" So, we’ll definably talk about that. And much much more. :) To register, just click here.

Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert? Saturday, June 5th 3:00 - 4:30 p.m.

(Back by popular demand - Saturdays!)

This event is always a lot of fun. There are a lot of "ah-ha" moments when we discuss the different personality types. You’ll figure out which one is you. And then you can discover:

• Who you’re attracted to!
• Who would be a good fit for you!

This is always a full house, so register early to reserve your seat.

Online Singles Seminars -- On the Way!

I know some of you aren’t local but you’d love to attend the Singles Seminars. Or maybe you have friends that are out of town, that you would love to bring or send to the Seminars. So, we’re working on something just for you and for them! We’re hoping to be able to offer our Singles Seminars live via the web! We’re just getting started on this. But, I wanted to let you know what we’re planning. So, stay tuned...

Hope to "see" you soon!

Vondie

The Nuts & Bolts of Dating: Finding Someone Good Doesn’t Have to be a Mystery!
Friday, April 23rd
7:30 - 9:00 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before April 21st, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert?
Saturday, June 5th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before April 21st, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Copyright 2010

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

The Nuts & Bolts of Internet Dating: This Friday, March 19th (2-for-1 special!)

I hope you’re enjoying the beginnings of spring. I’m happy the rain has finally stopped.

Everyone says "love is in the air" in the springtime. But, if you’ve had trouble finding love or if you’ve been burned, it can all feel a little overwhelming.

But, it doesn’t have to be. Finding someone good, doesn’t have to be a mystery if you follow some basic guidelines.

So, that’s what we’ll be talking about this spring, the Nuts & Bolts of Dating, such as:

• Where to look to find someone good!
• What to say and do when you meet someone interesting!
• How to identify if someone is or isn't relationship material (and what to do about it!)

Andy gave us some great ideas at our last seminar. But, there was a lot he didn’t have time to cover. So, we’ll be talking about his dating tips and more!

I’ve also heard your requests to meet more often. So this spring, we’ll be meeting twice a month on Friday evenings.

Our first Friday event will be this week, Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You!

To celebrate our new day and time, we’ll be bringing back our 2-for-1 special (for this night only ☺). Register yourself and bring a friend for free! (And don’t forget to bring your Internet Dating Profile, if you have one. If there’s time, we’ll give you some feedback on it.)

I hope you’ll join us this Friday!

Vondie

Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You!
*Friday, March 19th (*new day and time!)
7:30 - 9:00 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before March 17th, $15 at the door)
To register (2-for the price of 1!) just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

How to Meet Someone You’d Like to Date!

Just a quick reminder, Andy Whaling will be joining us this Saturday at the Village Book Shop!

If you haven’t heard me mention Andy - he was the director of Sunday Night Singles in Pasadena for 10 years. And I attended his singles group. I learned how to pay attention to red flags so I could avoid the “sharks and players.”  I also learned how to date so I could find someone good. And it worked. I’m no longer single and I did find someone really good!

So, I hope you’ll join us for this very special event. And feel free to invite any friends who might be interested. Register by March 4th for the early bird discount. Or you can just pay at the door. For more information, just click here.

I can’t wait to see you there!

Vondie

How to Meet Someone You'd Like to Date!
(Special Guest Speaker, Andy Whaling)
Saturday, March 6th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before March 4th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

How to Meet Someone You’d Like to Date! Special Guest Speaker – Andy Whaling, MFT, Saturday, March 6th

You’ve all heard me talk about Andy Whaling and his relationship tips...everything from - how to avoid sharks and players, to -- first date guidelines, to -- how to avoid serial monogamy! So, to celebrate our one year anniversary at the Village Book Shop, Andy will be joining us as our special guest speaker, Saturday, March 6th!

As many of you know, I attended Andy’s group, when I was single. I was already a therapist. And I had done a lot of work on myself. But, at Andy’s group, I really learned the “nuts and bolts" of dating. He gave concrete suggestions that helped us screen out the “sharks and players" so we could find the other good singles out there.

And it worked! I finally found somebody good.  :)

And I know that’s what you want and deserve, too!

So, I hope you’ll join us for this very special event. (I do think this will be a packed house and seating is limited.  So register early to reserve your seat!)

I also wanted to let you know, we will be meeting twice a month this spring. I know it’s hard to give up too many Saturdays. And I thought it might be nice to have a place to get together on Friday evenings. So, we’ll be meeting the 1st and 3rd Fridays of the month at 7:30 p.m.

Our first Friday event will be March 19th! And to celebrate our new day and time, we will be bringing back the 2-for-1 special (for this event only :).  Register yourself and bring a friend for free! And we have a great topic for that night -- Internet Dating: How to Make it Work For You! (Bring your profile, if you have one. And if there’s time, we’ll give you some feedback on it.)

So, I hope to see you at our very special event with Andy and then on our new night to talk about Internet Dating.

I can’t wait to see you soon!

Vondie

How to Meet Someone You'd Like to Date!
(Special Guest Speaker, Andy Whaling)
Saturday, March 6th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before March 4th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Internet Dating: How to Make it Work for You!
*Friday, March 19th (*new day and time!)
7:30 - 9:00 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before March 17th, $15 at the door)
To register (2-for the price of 1!) just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

What Men Really Want! What Women Really Want! And Much Much More for 2010!

I hope your new year is off to a good start. I have to admit, I'm glad the holidays are over and I'm ready to get back to "real life." And one of the things I'm most excited about getting back to is our Relationship Talks/Singles Seminars. They've really become a place to get together with others who want to find someone good. And we've got some new ideas for Spring (see below).

Feb. 6th, What Men Really Want! What Women Really Want!
(Question & Answer)

For our Valentines Talk, you'll have a chance to ask all those things you've always wanted to know about the opposite sex! And the men (or women) in the group will answer. I think this Seminar will be A LOT OF FUN!  :)  (Register early to reserve your seat!)

March 6th How to Meet Someone You'd Like to Date!
***Special Guest Speaker*** Andy Whaling

In March, we're having our very special event. Andy Whaling, former director of Sunday Night Singles will be joining us. I attended Andy's group when I was single and it completely changed the way I dated (which is one reason, I'm no longer single!). I'm so excited that he'll be joining us to share his dating expertise! (I think this will be a packed house and seating is limited. So register early to reserve your seat!)

This Spring, We'll be Meeting More Often!
(Friday Evenings)

I've loved this last year of talks at the Village Book Shop. It's been great to spend time with you and to get to know you better. And I've heard recently that some of you would like to get together more often so you can get to know each other better, too!

So, we're working on it for this Spring! I know it's hard to take a chunk out of Saturdays more than once a month. And I'm thinking it might be nice to have a place to get together at the end of the week. So, we're thinking about Friday Nights at 7:30 p.m. (weekly or 1st and 3rd Fridays) I'd love to get your feedback on this. You can leave a comment here and/or see what others are saying. (Just scroll down to Comments at the bottom of this post.)

I can't wait to see what this year brings!

Love to you,

Vondie :)

What Men Really Want! What Women Really Want!
Saturday, February 6th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before February 4th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

How to Meet Someone You'd Like to Date!
(Special Guest Speaker, Andy Whaling)
Saturday, March 6th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 before March 4th, $15 at the door)
To register, just click here.
For more information, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

How to Let Go of the Past So You Can Get Started On Your Future!

I hope you had a really nice Christmas. 

But, as you approach the New Year, it’s normal to reflect on the past year, where you are now, and where you’d like to be...

I know many of you would like someone good to share your life with.  But, sometimes you can feel like your past relationships and fears of making the same mistakes are holding you back.

That’s why in January we’ll be talking about how to let go of the past, so you can get a fresh start in the New Year!

This Singles Seminar will be interactive.  You’ll actually be cutting out pictures from magazines to symbolize the things you’d like to let go of. 

You can also cut out pictures to represent what you’d like to have in your life or in a relationship.  Please let us know early if you’re planning to attend, so we’ll have plenty of supplies for everyone.

I can’t wait to see you. 

And I do wish you a bright and happy new year!

Vondie

How to Let Go of the Past, So You Can Get Started on Your Future!

Saturday, January 9th

3:00 - 4:30 p.m.

Village Book Shop

123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora

($5 before January 7th, $10 at the door)

To register, just click here. 

For more information, just click here. 

FYI -- Mark your calendars for our upcoming Singles Seminars:

February 6^th – What Men Really Want/What Women Really Want!

March 6^th – How to Meet Someone You’d like to Date (Guest Speaker:  Andy Whaling, former director of Sunday Night Singles!)

Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.

You Can Get Through the Holidays, Even If You’re Single!

We know the holidays are stressful for everyone.  And I don’t want to discount those of you who are in a relationship, especially if you’re struggling. 

But, this month I’d like to focus on singles. Because if you’re single or newly divorced, the holidays can be especially tricky.   It can feel like everyone else has someone to be with or some place to go.  But, if you’re single, it’s easy to feel like you don't really belong anywhere.  Even if you spend the holidays with friends or family, you can still feel like a 5th wheel.   

And that can be hard.

So what can you do about it?

There are all the “wrong” things you can do.  Like getting involved with someone who’s not really right for you.  Or getting too close to someone you’ve just started seeing.  You might feel better in the moment.  But, there’s a good chance you’ll feel worse after. 

You can an end up with an “emotional hangover” which is way worse than a physical one. 

So what might really help?

*  Sometimes success is just surviving.   I know this sounds very Grinch-like.  But, it’s important to acknowledge that the holidays can be hard at times.  And if you just make it through, without making things worse, that’s a success.

*  Make the most of those holiday get togethers!  This can be a great time to practice smiling and meeting people that you could potentially date.  And if you're around people who are in good relationships, it's okay to let them know you're open to being set-up.

I know -- it's really hard to keep putting yourself out there. 

But, instead of just surviving the holidays...maybe this could be an opportunity to meet people who might be right for you! 

So, next year the holidays might be even better...  

If you’d like to talk about this with other singles, join us for:

How to Date During the Holidays!
Saturday, December 5th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($5 before December 3rd, $10 at the door)

To register, just click here. 

For more information, just click here.

I'd love to hear what you think about dating during the holidays.  If you'd like to join our online discussion, just click on Comments below.  

And I hope you have a great Thanksgiving,

Lots of love, 

Vondie

Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional tthat is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered. 

2-for-1 Holiday Seminar! (and future opportunities)

First of all, I want to acknowledge those of you who aren't local and can't attend these events.  Or maybe they're just not what you're needing right now.  I'm working on some projects/products that will be available wherever you are.  I'll keep you posted.  So STAY TUNED.  :)

But, regarding the Holiday Seminar.  I'm hearing that many of you are interested.  But I KNOW money is tight for everyone right now. 

But, I'd still REALLY LIKE to meet with you for the Holiday Seminar.  I'd like it to be a place where we can talk about relationships and get through the holidays together.   

So, I thought -- why not do what we do at the monthly Relationship Talks and offer a 2-for-1 rate?  Then we'll get more people, which is always fun.   And hopefully, anyone who wants to attend, will be able to.  And we'll get to have our Holiday Seminar!

So, if you'd like to attend the 6-week Holiday Seminar, but money has been holding you back, I hope this helps. 

Here's how it works, to take advantage of the 2-for-1 rate:  You and a friend decide to both attend the Holiday Seminar.  When you register for the Seminar, one of you pays and then you split the cost.  Also make sure to include the second person's registration information in the box provided. 

I hope this works...

Because I really would like to get through the holidays together!

Take Good Care,

Vondie :)

Don't Go Through the Holidays Alone!
Thursdays, November 5, 12, 19; December 3, 10, 17
7:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Glendora Friends Church
827 S. Lone Hill Ave., Glendora, CA  91740
($120 by October 30th, $140 after)
To register, click here

cancellation policy

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Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or services offered.

Did you know...Your family affects who you choose and how you get along!

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, I thought this might be a good time to talk about our families.  We all know that they affect us.  But, sometimes, we don't realize how much. 

And I'm not just talking about how your actual family affects you today.  Though thanksgiving and holidays do tend to bring all that family stuff up. 

What I'm really talking about is how growing up in your family affects you and your relationships ... who you choose and how you get along. 

It can be simple things, like:

• Maybe you were the oldest responsible one.  And you find yourself picking people that you have to take care of. 

• Or maybe you were the youngest.  And you still feel like you have to answer to everyone else, instead of doing what feels right to you. 

• Or maybe people in your family were really close and in everyone's business.  So, you tend to like guys who give you some space.  But, then sometimes you wish they were closer.  

• Or maybe people in your family sort of kept to themselves.  So, you're not sure how to get close to someone.  And you don't want to get hurt.

You get the picture.  It's tricky.  Whether someone's like your family or the exact opposite.  It can still bring up your family stuff. 

The key is learning what that stuff is.  Then you get to decide who you want to be in a relationship and what kind of relationship you really want. 

And then when your family stuff comes up (which it will, even in a good relationship), you'll at least know why you're so upset.  And that will help you get through things better.   

And I do hope you enjoy the upcoming holidays with your family. 

Lots of love,

Vondie :)

ps.

I hope you'll join us to talk about:

How your family affects you and your relationships

Saturday, November 7th
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 at the door)

For more information,  just click here. 

And don't forget our 6-week Holiday Seminar:

Don't go through the holidays alone!

Thursdays, November 5, 12, 19; December 3, 10, 17
7:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Glendora Friends Church
827 S. Lone Hill Ave., Glendora, CA  91740
($120 by October 30th, $140 after)

For more information,  just click here.

Or to register, click here

cancellation policy

Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.

Back by popular demand! Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert? And what does that mean for your relationship(s)?

I wasn't planning to do this talk again until next year.  But, I've had so many requests, that I've decided to do it twice a year.  So, if you missed it last time, this is your chance! 

On October 3rd, we'll be talking about how your personality style affects your relationship and your relationship choices, such as:  

• Do you need more time alone or more time with lots of people?
• Is it better for you to trust your "gut" or would you rather way "pros and cons"?
• Are you more of a "heart" person or a "head" person?
• Do you like to plan ahead and be organized? Or would you rather be spontaneous and flexible?

I know these all sound like random things.  But, when you put it all together, it can tell you a lot about yourself and your relationships. 

We'll also talk about who you might be attracted to and who would be a good fit for you. 

And for those of you in a relationship, we'll look at -- why the things you initially loved about your partner might be driving you crazy now! 
 
I have to admit, this is a really fun Talk.  Plus, you can bring your partner or friends and learn more about them.   :)

Hope to see you there!

October 3rd
3:00 - 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora
($10 at the door)

For more information,  just click here. 

Take Good Care,

Vondie

http://www.vondiecounseling.com/
  
Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.

Dating: Why it's so important for Singles and Couples

I hope you're enjoying your last couple weeks of summer.  My boyfriend and I just got back from vacation and we had a great time!  (Which hasn't always been the case.  Sometimes our vacations have been a bit "stressful."  Scroll down to September '07 post for more on this.  :) 

Anyway, as we've been together longer and know each other better, our vacations are also getting better.  And part of what we did differently on this trip was make an extra effort to make "entertainment" or fun more of a priority.  We took a couple boat tours and even saw a whale up close!  It was awesome. 

A last month's Relationship Talk, we discussed how important it is to date "differently" than you have in the past, if you want to find someone different than you've found in the past!

And we'll be talking more about New Ways of Dating that will Help you Find the Guy you Really Want at our September 12th Talk.  

But, it also got me thinking about how dating isn't just for singles.  It's easy for couples to stop "dating" or doing anything fun, once you settle into a routine together.  When that happens, you can start to feel more like roommates than a couple.    

So, we'll also be talking about How "Dating" Your Partner can Keep your Love Fresh and Alive!

So, whether you're single or part of a couple, I'd love to hear from you.  You can leave a comment here or you can join us at the Village Book Shop, September 12th, 3:00 - 4:30 p.m. (123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora), $10 at the door.  And if you're bringing a friend or partner, don't forget your 2-for-1 coupon.  Just click here for more information.

I can't wait to hear from you and/or see you soon!

Vondie :)

p.s.

Back by popular demand!  We'll be discussing How Your Personality Style Affects Your Relationships at our October 3rd Talk. This workshop uses the Keirsey-Bates/Myers-Briggs to help you understand yourself and your relationships.  And, it's really fun!

Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.

Why Passion is Even Better than Chemistry

It was great to get to talk about Sex at our last Relationship Talk!

And next month we'll be talking about Why Passion is Even Better than Chemistry!  

If you're single and you'd like to have a better relationship than you've had in the past, this talk is for you.  If you're in a relationship and your partner drives you crazy at times and you want to know why, this talk is for you. 

We find people attractive for all kinds of reasons.  But, most of the time, chemistry is based on stuff we're not even aware of. 

We're most attracted to what we know.  Or rather who we know.

It's like we have a template inside us that lights up when we find someone attractive.  It draws us in like a magnet.  And it says -- "Ahh, this is what I've been looking for."  "This is what I want."

This template is made up of all the relationships from our childhood and other important people in our lives. 

So, if you had good family relationships.  You'll most likely have chemistry with people who will treat you right.  Because you choose people based on your relationship template.  And good for you.  

The problem comes, when you've had less than great relationships in the past.  You may have chemistry with people who remind you of those past relationships. 

Even though you don't want to repeat those relationship patterns, your template still lights up when you come across people that fit that relationship template.   

Something about them may feel familiar or attractive.  And it's hard to choose someone that you don't feel attracted to.  (That's also why they drive us so crazy later on!  Because they're reminding us of someone from the past.)

But, the secret is -- you can have passion, without initial chemistry. 

And passion can be even better!  Because, it's based on a real relationship with your partner.  It's not chemistry, because they remind you of someone from the past.  And it's not going to wear off once you get to know them. 

If you'd like to understand your chemistry and relationship choices, this talk is for you.  

If you want to discover how to have passion that is even better than chemistry, this talk is for you.

I'd love to hear how you feel about chemistry and passion.  Just click here to share.    

And as always ... Remember to take good care of you,

Vondie,

p.s.  Join us Saturday, August 1st, to discuss Why Passion is Better than Chemistry, 3:00 - 4:30 p.m. at the Village Book Shop in Glendora.  $10 at the door.  For more information, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.

Sex: Why it's So Important to Him and Why it Seems Less Important to Her

Sex is a mysterious and wonderful part of relationships.  It’s the glue that bonds us, like nothing else.  But, why is it so important to men?  And why does it seem less important to women?
 
The truth is -- sex is very important to women.  When women become physically involved, they become emotionally attached.  That’s why it’s important for women to not jump in too quickly.  Because once she’s physically intimate with someone, she becomes attached, whether she wants to or not. 

That’s also why, it takes more for women to get “in the mood.”  It’s nature’s way of slowing her down.  But, it can make things more complex for couples with busy, stressful lives.  For her to want sex, she needs to feel close and connected.  She can’t be tired or upset.  And she needs lots of cuddling and kissing first. 

It’s also harder for her to stay “in the mood.”  She can easily be distracted by noises, or worries, or if she just has a lot on her mind.  With so much that can go wrong, the key for her is quality not quantity.  She doesn’t need more sex, she needs good sex. 

And men are different.  For him, more is usually better.  It’s not that he wants bad sex.  It’s just that it doesn’t take as much for him to get or stay “in the mood.”  So, sex is usually good for him.  Plus, sex is often when he feels closest to her.  So for him, what’s not to like about sex?
 
We really are very different , when it comes to sex.  But the good news is -- if a couple can embrace their differences, sex will be better for her.  When sex is better for her, she becomes more interested in sex.  Then, chances are -- there will be more sex, which is better for him.  So everyone is happy! 

So, remember to take good care of yourself and each other, 

Vondie

p.s.
We'll be talking about your Sex:  Why it's So Important to Him and Why it Seems Less Important to Her at our next Relationship Talk, Saturday, July 11th, 3:00 - 4:30 p.m. at the Village Book Shop in Glendora.  For more information, just click here.

Every individual and situation is different.  The information presented here is general and educational.  It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation.  There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.